The Long Distance Relationship

To me there are 2 types of long distance relationships - those that make sense and those that are just an excuse not to have a real relationship.  I know people who've been in both.

The long distance relationship that makes sense is where 2 people have been together for a little while (enough to have some sort of commitment) and are faced with a separation of a determined time (few months or a year).  The separation could be because of school or work or family commitments. 

My best friend J met her now husband when they were still in University - in 2 different cities.  They had summers, breaks and holidays together but were separated while they were in school - a couple months at a time.  But they already had a commitment when they started the long distance thing and knew they would eventually be in the same city.  Now they're married.

Ditto for my friend S.  Her now husband would go away for 4 month intervals for work terms while they were dating.  Once again they already knew each enough and it was for a short enough time that it wasn't a big deal.

The other type of ldr is the one that doesn't make sense at all.  2 people in different places enter into it without hardly knowing each other at all.  Either they meet online or during one of the pair's brief vacation.  Sometimes it can work but most times its just avoiding a real relationship with someone who is actually available. 

I know a guy A who lives in Canada who met a girl from Germany while she was here visiting with one of his friends.  I'm sure they were attracted to each other but with that kind of distance it would be hard to actually have a long lasting relationship.  There were a couple of expensive visits and then it fizzled out.

A girl C is famous for them.  I think its because she;s not over her first long term relationship (of about 7 years).  He cheated on her and is now engaged to the person he cheated on her with.  So she has been in a strong of ldr and she has no intention of ever moving.  And these guys work in professions where it would make no sense for them to move to her.  So the relationship are doomed to failure.

That brings me to my assclown.  He lives in Canada yet now has a ldr (with someone he barely knows) with a girl on a different continent.  And this is apparently not the first time he's done that.  He might not even be aware that he's avoiding a real relationship.

This girl knows one thing about any future relationships - they better be spending the vast majority of their time at least living in the same city as me.