Online Dating

I heard the other day that 1 in 5 relationships now start online.

Problem is where I live there really is only one online dating option - plenty of fish or pof.  Which is sketchy.  Probably because its free.

I tried eHarmony a few months ago.  A friend of mine in Toronto is trying it and she gets like 20 matches a day.  You can get matched for free so I thought what the heck.  I at least wanted to see if its worthwhile in my small neck of the woods.

The verdict was no.  I got 5-10 matches a day and after about 5 days I was getting no matches with 1000 miles from where I live.  And I am not a long distance girl (see the previous post for my feelings on that).  Thank god I didn't pay!

So its back to pof for me!  I do know successful relationships and marriages that have come from the site.  I was maid of honor at a pof wedding last fall.  So it does work but you have to be careful and picky.  I might want to get it on but I'd at least like them to stay around for awhile after.  No bail immediately.  I know people who've had that experience with pof as well.

This time I'm giving it an honest try.  Unlike a few months ago when the only reason I was on there was to see how often the assclown was on there.  This went on for 2 months before I finally got the hint.  Well not really as his disinterest in a relationship was said to my face.

Good news is I already have a date for next week!  Yeah me!

The Block

I was told this months ago but a co-worker that when faced with hurt the best thing to do is cut that person out of your life.  In this age of social media that can be harder than ever.  Your friends with them (and their friends) on facebook, you follow them on twitter and they are on your gchat (or msn or whatever).  It so easy to continue to hold onto the past by looking at what they are doing and wondering if they are thinking about you.

You have to do the block.


Delete their number from your cell phone.  Delete all the messages.  Block their facebook and you don't have to see their name.  Block some of their friends if that's what it takes.  Block them on gchat or msn or whatever.  Do whatever it takes.  Don't be friends with them.

I think it was easier back in the day when the only way to find out what someone was up to was from their friends.  I hang onto past hurts.  I still remember things people did to me years ago.  That is not healthy.  I read a quote on facebook today that if someone hurts you just smile and thank them for the opportunity to meet someone better.